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Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Even Less Sugar: The Truth About the Future

  • Ian will die of brain cancer.
  • I will be a widow.
  • The children will lose their father.

These are the FACTS (barring being hit by a bus).

It's what we do with these facts that matters.


This weekend we had to visit the hospital; Ian accidentally stopped taking one of his medications and thing went downhill quickly. Lots of swelling to lots of ill effect.

After an overnight on steroids, he's back to "normal."

And then we saw the oncologist.

The tumor, which is "cystic" (meaning like a jellyfish, not a golf ball), is still moving. Some of the movement COULD be due to all of the swelling happening up there. Some could be straight-out growth. It's nebulous and hard to measure, because as I said above, it's gooshy. We do know that it is aggressive. It's not in a place they can operate (it's too close to ventricles and such).

What I know is the doctor said things like, "extend your life as much as possible," and "keep you comfortable," and "I'm very worried."

Ian has started a treatment called Avastin which will lessen swelling. It's delivered by IV, every three weeks. He will also remain on Temodar, the pill-form chemotherapy, with 5 days on, 20 days off, etcetc.

Radiation treatment is over. The effects of THAT have not necessarily been realized, in terms of tumor shrinking ... and the radiation itself can cause swelling. So you can see ... SWELLING. Is an issue.

The doctor refuses to give a timeline here. He will tell us what treatment we'll do, and when, but won't give a prognosis. That's ok ... how would we hold him to it, long or short? but the point is, we don't know how much time we have.

None of us do, really.

It's just that for us, that time is less.

Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Even Less Sugar: What's Going On?

Things have been very busy in the Maize household. I realize that some people are a bit in the dark and await an update. My apologies. (Please note: I have a TON of things to say about ALL kinds of things and just haven't been able to bring myself to write it all down. There are gaps in this story I hope to fill, but I just can't do it right now).

Since my last post(s):

We were honored to be part of a prayer service at our church, where over 200 people gathered.

The kids both went to sleep-away camp: Ezra for one week, Audrey for two.

Ian's significant inability to communicate and think clearly has lessened SUBSTANTIALLY. He can carry on a conversation just fine now. PRAISE GOD.

He has done one round of chemotherapy (1 pill, every day for 5 days, at home) and his last radiation treatment is tomorrow (Wednesday). He has handled both very well, with no substantial side effects.

Our water main developed a leak, which turned into a torrent, resulting in a torn up street and no water for a day ... but that's in the process of being repaired. (currently the sidewalk is torn up and the street is soon to join it, and we're pilfering water from the neighbor for the interim).

My (maternal) grandfather, William F. Sheraw, passed away. The funeral service was difficult but beautiful, and we were all able to attend.

Ian has returned to work, at least in the mornings, for office work and hospital visits. He is unable to drive, and so receives rides to appointments. He considers this work both a duty and a privilege, and, in his words, it makes him feel somewhat useful.

I have also returned to work, in a part-time capacity. My employer is completely flexible and I'm able to work my schedule around Ian's and the kids'.

The kids are in a lull between camps and other scheduled activities, so they are mostly clamoring to play Minecraft and have friends over.

So that's what we're doing. How ARE we?

The Kids: They are as aware of the seriousness of the situation as they can possibly be at their respective ages. They are both "seeing" people to talk about their feelings, and are slated to attend a camp specifically for children of parents with cancer in August.

The Patient: Ian is tired a lot. He probably overdoes it with the visits and the food, but he also enjoys the company and the deliciousness. He experiences "moodiness" and is quicker to become irritated -- this is a result of a multitude of factors, the most likely culprit being the steroid he takes to keep swelling at bay.

As far as cognition goes, Ian's word-finding is SO much improved from when he returned home that I'm inclined to say it's "back to normal." However HE is aware of deficits, whether they be in word-retrieval, clarity of thought, or ability to follow conversation/activity. This lack, this mental hiccuping, distresses him to varying degrees. It's subtle to the outside observer, but to him ... I don't want to speak FOR him other than to say I believe it both makes him feel "less than" and worries him at the prospect of decline in this particular area. Losing the ability to think and communicate, to someone nearly complete with a post-graduate degree, freshly hired as a pastor who has been delivering sermons ...

The Wife/Mom/Caregiver:  It depends on the day. Truly. We're not doom and gloom here, but we're not naive. This is tough stuff. Sometimes I get to pretend and play ostrich, and other times I am struck with the full weight of the situation. At this stage, I will admit to focusing on the logistical issues of long-term preparedness and countering those with the day-to-day fluff that keeps us occupied. I don't meddle too much with the "what-if's" and the "are we spending quality time?!" stuff ... at least this week.

Which brings me to next week: 
Monday is our next MRI. I don't think I can possibly overstate the importance of this scan. Unlike all past others, we already KNOW something is there. We're praying that what we've done so far has had an effect.

There could be no change.
There could be shrinkage. (It's ok - you can smirk at the Seinfeld reference)
There could be growth.

All of these potentials have their own agony. We have no clear picture of any next steps.

We covet your prayers. We appreciate your thoughtfulness, support and friendship. And we wait.

Thursday, July 9, 2015

Even Less Sugar: #3.5

... More from the hospital weeks ago...

I'm so thankful for all these people at the hospital doing their jobs.

I resent people who are laughing. Just a little. But I'm so glad people are happy and being themselves.

Facebook keeps me company.

I'm tired of being strong.

So many people have it so much worse.

Even Less Sugar: #3: Raw

Warning: this is an unedited stream of consciousness I wrote in the hospital a few weeks ago. This is real and honest and yucky. Fears and thoughts and what-ifs. Because this is probably universal. Our maybe you wonder what's going through my head about all this. Here's a peek. 

So much to say, but where do I start?

Fears: Ian's dumbs don't dissapate
His enlarged blind spot keeps him from driving. How does one do hospital visits without being able to drive? Does that mean the end of his formal ministry? What about reading books and watching movies and fiddling with the interwebs? These have become much of his awake life. 

On Friday they say, I'm sorry, this is a grade IV situation, and the only thing we can do is keep you comfotable. Update your will and hug your kids. 

We need to do invasive or intense chemo. It drains him and he ends up being frustrated with is own lack of energy. This in turn troubles the children (see most of the above as well)

He becomes prone to seizures/the dumbs because of this and other future treatments to the brain. Where does it end?

If none of this is curative, when is enough enough? When does the treatment endanger him or exacerbate things to an unacceptable level?

What do I DO without a husband? How does that look? I'm okay with forever caretaker ... but widow? Can't brain that.

Truth: I've imagined widowhood for YEARS. Some people might have fleeting scary thoughts about their kids getting into drugs, their loved ones being injured in war or getting hit by a bus - I have flashes of sad and lonely woman in her big house with her two cats, trying to keep herself together for the sake of her kids. Or deciding to stop mourning and be human again, only to meet resistence from folks who think "too soon, girl, too soon."

Realizing I'm nearing 40. When these things happened almost ten years ago, and I had the same thoughts, the future was in 5 years ... now that it's been 9, the future is ... This math isn't making sense, but let me try to put it this way - at 28, 40 was a LONG way off, and I may have considered a "decent life lived." Now that it's around the bend, I feel like I'm/we're just getting started with this whole marriage/family/life thing, and 60 would be a good life lived. I'm sure this is universal (teens think 30 is super old!) but in this context ... things are out of whack.
I'm not afraid to ask for help. I have learned to accept help and gifts graciously, I hope. I'm not worried about surviving financially or even physcially. Not spiritually, although I'm sure there will be bumps. But emotionally? How to BE. This thing - as it rolls, when it ends ... how to BE.

Cancer is not just the thing eating away at the person you love. It's the ball of yuk that comes along with.

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Even Less Sugar #2: If you need ANYTHING ...

Please refer to THIS post for my standard disclaimer for this series.

We are truly blessed by an amazing family, a tight neighborhood, a sacrificial church body, and a large network of new and old friends. I reflect often on how anyone could possibly manage to survive without even ONE of these people groups; but the truth is, many must. Please take a moment to consider this and pray that your eyes are always open to those in need around you.

When disaster strikes (and it has, now multiple times for our family), people near and far spring into action. Some spring into prayer, some spring into contact: "We don't really know each other, but know that I'm praying for you and if there's anything I can do from Slicklizzard, Alabama, please let me know!"

And some yearn to help in tangible, practical ways:

  • "Please let me know if there's anything you need." 
  • "I'm home on Mondays and Fridays - if you need to have someone watch the kids for you, I'm available."
  • "We're on vacation until the 5th, but after that we're here for whatever you need." 
  • "I love to do handyman work. Call me if you need something fixed!"
  • "Can I take you out for coffee?"

Being overwhelmed with available help is a good problem to have. Again, I am not decrying anyone's offers; I'm merely pointing out ways by which we can better help those in need.

  1. I don't know WHAT I need. I've been through our current situation (albeit under slightly different circumstances) before. So, I have a little bit of experience navigating how it looks taking care of two kids and a husband with balance, dexterity and cognitive issues. I know that I will go-go-go-GO and then CRASH. I know that I will need the house to myself every now and then. I know that I will forget, or be unable to eat, often.
          The last time Ian had brain surgery (one should never have to write that sentence, btw), someone offered to do my laundry. This is not something I would have even considered as a need, nor would I have ever ASKED someone to do this routine, semi-personal task. "If I can't even do my laundry, I'm in big trouble!" I might have thought. Still, here was someone with a specific offer: "I am available, I enjoy doing laundry, and I would like to relieve you of that burden." And so, amazingly, I accepted the offer. And it was a blessing. It was one less thing on my plate, of course, but I can't fully explain the feeling of kindness that washes over you when someone has lovingly folded your gutchies. Truth.  

My point here is this: I wouldn't have asked someone to do my laundry. If someone had been to my house and noticed that the dishes needed to be washed, he/she probably would have done them without asking. But to offer to meet this nearly invisible but nonetheless essential need -- I didn't know how blessed I would be by this simple thing.

My advice: 

  • Offer to do something you are good at doing and enjoy doing. I like to write. I can come over and write notes or emails or Facebook posts or thank you notes. I can "interview" you to get a timeline of things in case you need that in writing somehow. I can fill out forms. I'm not a big cook, I don't dig on kids much (I'm available in a pinch, and I'm always willing to do it, it's just not my thing), but I actually find cleaning soothing (when it's not my own home) and I'm excellent at finding items in stores or online. I schedule just about everything, so if you have a routine appointment or need (take out the trash Thursday nights), I'm on it. These things may seem small, but they all add up, and PEOPLE WANT TO HELP. Let them
  • Be specific. If I've told you "I really like to deep clean a fridge," and you just spilled the orange juice in there, who ya gonna call? Sound ridiculous? It's not. It's really, really not. 
  • Put it IN WRITING. You say, "If you need anything, just ask!" and you probably mean it. The thing is, I'm not going to call you about "ANYTHING." An offer in passing is not something I'm going to remember nor hold someone to, even if they meant it earnestly. If you send a card and offer to do a thing, put that offer and your contact info RIGHT ON THE CARD. Or a little note you put in with the food. Even if you make the offer in person, put it in writing. Yes, I probably have your info in my phone or in the church directory. Yes, this might seem awkward (we should SO return to using calling cards!). But what's a few extra pen strokes to you? I stash that note in my bag and now I don't have to remember who offered to take the kids to the park. Note: please include your last name as well - depending on the amount of help offered, there can be several "Bill's."
  • Be (a little) pushy. For many cultural reasons, we're conditioned to both shy away from asking for, as well as actually accepting, help (see an upcoming post entitled Accepting Help for Dummies). When someone responds, "That's okay," he or she may actually mean, "I wouldn't want to trouble you," or "that would be great but I feel like an idiot for accepting that offer," or "Oh, no, I would never ask anyone to do that." My response: "You're NOT asking, I'm offering, and I wouldn't do so if I weren't 100% willing." So maybe reassure the person that you, in fact, really DESIRE to help and it would make you feel great to do so. ("No thank you," however, actually means, "No, but thank you.")
2.  I cannot keep track of all of the people who have expressed desire and willingness to help.  (see above: put it in writing) If I don't call you, it's not because I prefer to receive help from the same five people. It's because I didn't think of you because I can't remember who told me last Wednesday he liked to plant shrubbery and recycle cardboard. Also, see Facebook note below.

3. "I'm allergic to dogs, I can't cook, and I work 50 hours a week. I can pray, but what else can I do?" This may require some detective work. I'm going to give you a list of randomness, just to get you started. THIS IS NOT A MAIZE FAMILY WISH LIST. Seriously, this is not about us. This is for YOUR information. (Note: some of these things are "just do it" items, and some would require coordination and permission, naturally).

  • Laundry! (and other household chores)
  • Child care (Go get froyo. Movies. The park. Shopping for something - especially if you have kiddos yourself; this way it's not staring at one another in your child-free home, it's joining some friends for some fun. Kids know when they're being shuffled about.)
  • Yard work
  • Meals/food
  • Patient care (can I sit with him for a few hours while he naps?)
  • Caregiver care ("Can I take you to the movies and arrange for someone else to take care of the homefront?" / "Can I sit with him while he naps and YOU go out and do something?")
  • Pet care
  • Errands - recycling, dropping things off, picking things up
  • Cleaning/organizing (home? office? car)
  • Transportation (kids, patient, caregiver)
  • Send a card. Send a package. Mail is awesome!
  • Send emails or texts or posts or letters of inspiration
  • Offer to take them to get groceries (and perhaps surprise them by paying for them?)
  • Lend/give a novel you love
  • Give a random, silly toy
  • Give a random, silly magazine
  • Find out somewhere they're headed or a prior commitment and cover the bill (someone did that for me in 20011 at the hair salon, and it was a crying moment for me. It happened again this year, at the orthodontist. Tears.) *see below, regarding giving money
  • Take the "patient" out to eat or get them otherwise out of the house (this is good for both patient AND caregiver)
  • Post ridiculous cat videos to her Facebook page
  • Post just about anything with a turtle in it to her Facebook page (ok, so those last two are kinda about me, lol)
  • Pool your efforts and resources to serve in some way (form a cleaning crew or a massage/hair cut/nails kind of thing, or tackle a home repair project)
  • Gift the kids (but don't go overboard).
  • What hobbies do they have? What foods do they love? Troll around for preferences (Facebook is another good avenue for sleuthing in this area) by asking around. 
  • Send them: "I'm at 'X', can I bring you a 'Z?'" text messages. (Reason: I'm not going to ask you to GO for Target for me, even if I need something. But if you're already there ...).
There are just a few ideas, and obviously you'll want to consider the situation. A new baby is different emotionally than a broken leg. A constant stream of folks visiting to squeeze the baby may mean "please bring us food so I don't have to cook for my cousins who are only here to see the baby but clearly not wash dishes" and a person experiencing depression may need space, or a listening ear, or a night out, or all three.

Regarding gift cards, cash and checks: 
      People are weird about money. Talking about it, giving it, accepting it, using it, not using it, etc. So let me just put this out there: You are not "throwing money" at a situation by offering it. You are not taking the "easy way out" of helping, nor are you insinuating something about the person/family's financial situation. Everything that relieves a burden relieves a burden. Cash may go toward gas for making hospital trips, paying the newspaper subscription, a new blouse for a woman feeling very blah, or perhaps toward something that's already in process, like, say, paying for a basement floor to be poured, the beginning of which was started before any thought of an impending bad situation existed. In my case, a kind friend (who knows that I buy most things, including toilet paper and cat litter from gifted me $25 amazon credit. I used it toward a wheeled laptop table because with all of the coordinating and communicating and writing I'm doing, I needed something portable but stable to serve as home base. Is a laptop table 1. something I'd ask for? 2. something essential to the home? 3. something I'd consider important in light of a potentially life-threatening disease? Nope. I probably would not have ordered it were it not for the "permission" by way of a few dollars from my friend. 

A note about Facbeook: 
   I have a separate post coming about Facebook ... and really I've had the post percolating for many years. The website is one of my closest, dearest friends -- because most of my actual friends "live" there. I'll save the Facebook love for another day, but I'll say this: social media allows for a cadre of support like none other. It allows people overwhelmed with life and circumstance to get the word out to everyone quickly and accurately, preventing rumors, allowing targeted prayer and help, and just keeping connected to a world outside one's own difficulties. It also makes it easy to make a need known, if you can bring yourself to post it. It lets people show their care and support within seconds of receiving an update.

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Even Less Sugar #1: Feeding the Hurting

As always, please remember: This is my own, personal blog. I am writing from the heart and from my own experience. My intention is to share with you openly and honestly and I hope that some of this material is of use. This post is not "this is how to do a thing," but rather "these are some things to consider." 

We love with food.

It's a universal language. Feeling down? Have a doughnut. Had a fantastic week at work? Let's go out for drinks. Got canned? Same bar, same drink, different mood. What's a birthday party without a cake? New baby? Here's a lasagna!

When you hear of someone in crisis, you want to spring into action to help. Sometimes that means reaching out to them directly: "Is there anything I can do?" Sometimes it's letting them know via social media that you are fervently praying for them. And sometimes you want to gift them in some way. Sometimes anonymously, sometimes in person. Sometimes by mail or via other people.

Sometimes with food.

(Again, I feel I must reiterate that this is NOT A CRITICISM OF ANYONE WHO HAS BROUGHT/BOUGHT THE MAIZE FAMILY ANY TYPE OF CONSUMABLE. Rather it is a way for me to publicly share what might benefit recipients most the next time you're called to love on someone in this way.) Please re-acquaint yourself with my impassioned disclaimer HERE.

1. Meal Train and other such software: i.e.: coordinating meals. This is a great way of keeping things organized. Depending on the situation, there could be a lot for the family to juggle. In the case of a new baby, it's staying awake long enough to make sure the baby gets fed, mostly, but add to that a few other siblings and a working spouse, home maintenance and a few outside obligations, and things can quickly turn into a logistical nightmare. Enter the coordinated, digital way to manage meals.

The great thing about this program (and other types, or simply a friend with a calendar with whom arrangements can be made manually) is that not only does it enable the family to share their actual needs ("we need dinners about twice a week"), but it avoids placing a BURDEN on that family from too many well-meaning folks stuffing their fridge with yummy deliciousness that is destined to go bad while they make 400 trips to doctor appointments and scarf down dining hall meals and vending machine chips.

Instead of "dropping by" and leaving a full meal on the doorstep, do try to see if there's a coordinated effort to track such donations, and if not, perhaps that can be your gifting to the family.

2. Dessert: not all of us eat it, or find it comforting. THIS IS A TOUCHY SUBJECT. I'm sorry about that. If it seems that I'm being nit-picky and not appreciative, please refer to previous disclaimers. I fully realize that people love one another via food. I get it.

In three weeks, my family of four has received the following:
1 apple pie
1 banana cream pie
1 coconut cream pie
1 chocolate sheet cake
1 plate homemade fudge
1 large box doughnuts
1 large box pastries
1 large bag cinnamon-sugar bagels
2 boxes kolaches
1 half-sheet carrot cake
1 dozen mini-cupcakes
1 dozen patriotic sugar cookies
1 box specialty cookies, mail-ordered
1 box snacks and candies
1 bag goodie bag of snacks and sweets

I may have omitted something here (feel free to pipe up if your sweet treat hasn't been mentioned!). I point this out to illustrate: it's not the items themselves. It's the sheer volume. This does not include the meals we have had delivered to us. This is just the dessert.

Three weeks. Four people. For one of those weeks, (and the coming one as well) the dessert-eater in the family has been at camp (she'd eat cake for breakfast every day if she could). The other little doesn't actually like dessert, and the adults rarely eat it in the first place.

None of the sweet treats have gone to waste. We've nibbled, and I've been able to bless others who've come to visit or deliver things or -- God bless them -- clean up my yard with the overflow. I've frozen a few things. (Truth: I'm pretty sure Audrey ate the entire apple pie.)

My advice:

  • Find out if the receiving family digs dessert. It might seem foreign to those of you who eat dessert at least once a day. But ask me and I'll tell you - we don't really eat it. If Audrey's home, I'd say - "Audrey would love something chocolate. But something small." 
  • It's not always possible to determine likes/dislikes, or you might not want to announce you're going to bless someone by bringing something by. You don't want this to be all "sign up to do something good" and ruin the gift aspect. I TOTALLY GET THIS. In this case, might I suggest bringing ONE [sweet treat]. One. Put it in a baggie with a ribbon and a card. Done. It says, "I'm thinking of you, this sucks/this is awesome/congratulations and here's something I love that I'm sharing with you." I promise, no one in the home will feel slighted you didn't bring a DOZEN bear claws. While your four cinnamon-raisin-banana-nut muffins might not amount to overkill, I'm adding them to the tower of baked goods taking over my counters.
  • Do YOU know what your friends' go-to comfort food(s) might be? Perhaps now would be a good time to ask!  

3.  Fruits and veggies are refreshing and essential. Think about how difficult it is sometimes to get the vegetable side dishes to your own table. The lettuce rots in the back of your fridge, because you meant well in buying it to make salads but it got shoved back there and chopping lettuce takes for-evah. You were going to roast that sweet potato like in the Pinterest recipe but you always forget to turn on the oven. Now consider how much more difficult it would be for someone juggling a newborn or dealing with an illness to get the peas onto the plate with the chicken nuggets. Are ya with me?

Add to this that a growing, or healing, or stressed body needs extra good things to keep it on track. In our own situation, meds can ... ahem ... slow things, internally. So we need the fiber. A nursing mom needs good stuff to make all that milk and keep her eyes propped open. Someone healing from a surgery needs nutritious sustenance.

My advice:

  • Include veggies. A bagged salad and some dressing is great (again, don't go overboard; think in terms of fridge space and longevity). One of those steam-in-bag fresh or frozen veggie selections are SUPER easy. Consider one of those veggie platters (or if you have time, save the cash and recreate it yourself, in bags. Perhaps include some dip.). Or include vegetables in the main dish you bring, such as lasagnas/pastas, enchiladas, etc. Don't worry about the receiving family not liking your particular selected veggie (in our house, Ian doesn't like corn but we all love Brussels sprouts - go figure!); just include something YOU like and chances are someone in the house will appreciate and benefit from it.
  • Edible Arrangements are beautiful and quite useful. Obviously your own version of cut-up fruit would also be an economical and welcomed choice. 

4. Think portion sizes and freezable options. Again, a 9x13 pan is a thing of beauty, but a bit overkill in some cases (especially if there are other eager meal-bringers in the bull-pen; see #1 above). If I'm getting several large meals in a week, there's no way I'm going to be able to finish any of them. (Obviously take into account the number of family members or potential out-of-town guests). I really, REALLY dislike to waste food. If it looks like the somethingsomething isn't going to get eaten before the next few meals roll in, I'll package it up and freeze it. You can also consider contributing pre-frozen meals, as long as the recipient has space in the freezer for said items. Check with the coordinator (see #1 again). 

5. Consider disposables. I'm not a big disposable-items-user. I try to bring my own bags to the store, we recycle, we re-use whenever possible. When we eat on the porch, we use the regular dishes. But I can make exceptions at Only-the-Essential-Things-Like-Keeping-Us-Alive-Matter-Right-Now times.

My advice: 
  • Present food in disposable containers whenever possible. Even Hefty-brand plastic containers created for this purpose need to be washed (yes, I know they COULD be tossed, but I'm thinking most do not do this). Consider foil baking pans and Ziploc bags
  • Include some disposable dishes and cutlery with your meal. This is something I NEVER would thought to do as the giver, but when this last round of drama coincided with a lack of hot water at our home for two days, I realized, "Wow, I could use some paper plates right now!" I can only imagine it would be a help in a number of situations when meals are being provided.
  • Label your meal and date it. It might be difficult to recall who brought the pulled pork, and if that was this week or two weeks ago. As I said ... things get hazy in times of distress. Post-It Tape is my favorite way of labeling food (and lots of other things). (Also remember the person receiving the meal at the door may not be the person searching through the fridge for something to eat.)
  • If you DO use a non-disposable dish and you want it back, figure out a way to label it and make arrangements to retrieve the dish in the coming days, such as "leave it on your porch in this paper bag with my name and phone number already on it, and I'll come by and get it next week. If it's still there next month, call me!" Have I mentioned that storing and keeping track of things can be a burden? This removes that burden.
6. Consider gift cards for groceries or restaurants. No, a gift card is not an unfeeling, plastic "I only sorta care about your situation" insult. It's a practical, considerate means to contribute without the additional need to coordinate and store. It might not be the best idea, say, for a mom with a nursing newborn, but it just might provide the excuse for a patient or caregiver to get out of the house for a few hours to shop or grab a taco. It can also be used to send OTHERS out for groceries.

In closing: being fed in a time of upheaval is an absolute blessing. Even if none of the above suggestions are heeded, the love and the food itself remain a blessing. Please take these suggestions in the spirit they were intended: to help us care for one another well.

Monday, July 6, 2015

Even Less Sugar: An Introduction

I am currently working on a series wherein I tackle the tough, uncomfortable stuff head on; because you all seem to value my honesty and regularly tell me so.

PLEASE NOTE: These are personal musings. They are not universal truths, they are my truths (although there will be overlap with universal truth, one would hope!). Also please, please, please: if you see yourself in anything I've written, know that I am not offended, ruminating, or in any way hurt by something you've done or said. This is NOT a criticism of ANYONE'S way of reaching out to us - we love you all and everything you do is valuable and advances the Kingdom. I merely point some things out to help the community serve one another well.

I will never reject a gift or a kindness, and I appreciate them all. I will receive advice and admonishment with as much grace as I can muster. I fault no one for any "touch" they give to us, whether that's digital, postal, physical or otherwise. God bless you all for your many kindnesses.